Have you ever thought about how your need” for money could be the biggest obstacle preventing you from getting the money you “need”? Getting past this problem is a key “success secret” that should be a part of every success mentoring program.
One of the reasons why it is unhelpful to focus on the thought that you “need money” is because it is likely to cause you to lower your horizons and grab the first offer that comes your way.
If you are in a situation where you feel that you really do need the money, what would happen if you didnt get it?
When you come up with an answer, ask yourself what would you do next… Even if you did not get the money you “needed” there could well be other opportunities out there that prove to be much better – because no single opportunity is the be all and end all of a situation.
Heres another question: How long could you live without this money before you’d have to go and live on the streets?
I know of someone who thought he needed money but, when he did this exercise, he discovered that he could probably survive for ten years before turning himself out to the mercy of the streets.
Working with a success mentoring coach, he decided to concentrate on building his business on the assumption that he had enough money to live.
Now, instead of focusing on his “neediness” and his fear of poverty, he based all of his decisions on his vision of the future and his desire for success.
And, guess what… in less than a year he was making TEN TIMES more money than he had been doing when focusing on his fears and his perceptions of neediness.
You might think that this person was a lot less needy than you are and so it was much easier for him.
Well, if that is what you are determined to believe, so be it.
Nevertheless, his experience does illustrate a very interesting fact.
When you let go of neediness and start acting on what you desire from the point of view of who you aspire to be, you are no longer working out of desperation, but out of inspiration.
As I said earlier, a sense of neediness will cause you to settle for the first thing that comes your way. Every time you focus on a negative thought you reinforce its power over your life and load the scales on the side of failure.
But when you act as if you already have plenty of money and are assured that you will have more, you will find yourself moving forward with the assurance of a sleepwalker.
You then make decisions not only without fear, but with joyfulness, and you can ask for what you want and making your vision plain without fear of loss.
Unfortunately, the great majority of people have been conditioned to act on fear and worry. Unfortunately, fear is a terribly ineffective state within which to make decisions.
What is fear?
Fear is a belief in our inadequacy to deal with something.*
When you are in a state of fear you shrink and suffer a loss of inspiration and a narrowing of vision. You get more and more anxious and your anxiety communicates itself to other people who will then hesitate to do business with you.
But when you operate in a state of self belief, courage, optimism and benevolence for others, you radiate ease and well-being. Your creativity grows. Opportunities that you had not noticed before suddenly become available to you and others are keen to work with you.
*Source: Harry Palmer, Living Deliberately
, p. 84